December 14, 2016

Kindness Always Wins

There was never a time in my life where it was more apparent that I needed a support tribe than during my weight loss journey. I think that is probably true for anyone going through any type of major life change.

And some people support you, and some don’t. That’s life, right?

The biggest support system for me besides my husband was the women friends I met through my gym. I found sisters in these women. I found love and support in these women. They shared similar interest, journey’s, and stories and they became a huge part of my personal journey, and they still are.

 

It was during that time that I really learned exactly how important my female friendships were to me. And how important it was to find my tribe, and love them hard.

When you connect with people who are good for you, you feel it. This is a big deal. It’s a gift.  Don’t forget to acknowledge how great it is to be around someone who lights you up, loves you and supports your dreams.

Finding people that support you is important, but it’s also just as important to know how to deal with people who don’t. Because they are out there. And believe me, if you are making huge changes in your life…those haters will come out of the woodwork. And that is never a pleasant thing to deal with.

I mean, who loves dealing with negativity and conflict? The thing is, no one does. Honestly I try to avoid conflict at all cost, being that I am a perpetual positivity junkie and all.

But there are times we need to. Because allowing negative comments, judgements, and vibes into our lives does effect us. It effects our well being. And me personally, it effects my mood and flow throughout my day after dealing with negativity. It just feels heavy.

I think the best way to deal with negativity is to do two things. First, tackle the problem or conflict as best as you can while being able to walk away with your head held high. And next set boundaries that feel good to you. That could mean you don’t talk about certain things with the “negativity offender,” or it could mean you decide to not deal with the “negativity offender” at all.

Either way know that you can continue on your journey with out everyone’s support. It is not going to break you. You are stronger than a judgment.

The thing is, life is short. So find the people who do support you, encourage you, and love them hard. Because kindness always wins, and when we support each other incredible things happen.

 

“And if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all” Mrs. Walters (my Kindergarten teacher)

 

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